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The hidden secret to weight loss success

by Melina Kunifas  |  5539 views  |  6 comments  |        Rate this now! 

4.) Buy and wear sexy lingerie. Get a few pieces that make you feel sexy, even if no one else sees it. Feeling sexy under our clothes only helps to raise our confidence.

5.) If you happen to eat too much, do not feel guilty. Write down what feelings you had right before you started eating. Embrace those feelings and realize that they are not there to destroy you, but to show you what needs to be addressed in your life.

6.) Keep a success journal. Write down every success you had that day, no matter how small. It could be flossing (if that’s a pain for you), eating more salad, cleaning your desk, and so forth. Also all write down the great stuff around you that you are grateful for (we’ve got way more than we think).

7.) Last but not least, treat yourself as you would treat your best friend. We don’t expect from them what they cannot do. We don’t go on lecturing them about all their shortcomings. Instead, we give them some slack for mistakes. We cheer their success and acknowledge their qualities. And that’s exactly what you want to do for yourself!

And remember this: We don’t have the past or the future. All we have right now is the present. So start enjoying the journey -- happiness is not at the end of the road, but in every step we take.

About the Author

Melina Kunifas is a Life Coach and Speaker who’s struggled all her life with weight and self-esteem issues. Now in a very comfortable place with herself, she thrives on helping others achieve the same. For more information, contact her at or at 1-866-774-8317, or visit her at:

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6 comments so far...

  • I've tried using Adipex to lose weight and it works for me. I purchased it online in

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by Cora on 8th February 2010

  • Diane, I think one of the major reasons I worked on my issues so much (and still work) is because I don't want to pass them on to my children. Not only the ones related to weight but any limiting believes I was brought up with. Unfortunately many of us are raise focusing on the limits, and just a few on the possibilities. So my goal as a mom and Coach is to help my kids and others see the amazing possibilities life offers them.
    thanks for the comment.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by Melina Kunifas on 7th February 2008

  • I had never thought of it that way, but you are absolutely right in your observation that there are two types of motivation. I went through years of the bad kind as a child and teenager, and have since moved on to better things. But the memory sticks with me and, as I've already said elsewhere on this site, I hope I can help my little girl grow up with healthy self-esteem so she can avoid this sort of anguish. Anyway, this is wonderful advice. Thanks so much for sharing this.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by Diane on 6th February 2008

  • I am happy this article can help some of you a bit :-)

    Kate, I know what you mean about being tricky to go from dirty to pure motivated. The problem is that it's impossible to put all that's involved in the process in a simple article. The aim of this text was to send a few tips, make people see the issue from a different perspective and break a few limiting believes. Maybe one day I'll write a whole book about it. For now, I'll keep writing articles and helping people one-one ;-)
    thanks for the comments

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by Melina Kunifas on 5th February 2008

  • Great article, Melina! I especially like the last tip - treating myself like my best friend.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by SK on 4th February 2008

  • wow this is a great article and it really resonates with me! any time i have been successful i have followed similar steps and didnt even realize it! i always wondered why i have had a hard time with the weight/food portion of my life and here i think you helped clarify that a bit. however, the transition from 'dirty' to 'pure' motivation is a tricky one! thank you for the roadmap!

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by Kate on 4th February 2008