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Finding Balance Can Be a Job All Its Own

Here are my multitasking mom tips for getting it done!

by Robin Gorman Newman  |  1010 views  |  1 comment  |        Rate this now! 

Over the summer, I was thinking about doing some freelance writing, but suddenly found myself in huge crunch mode. My 4 1/2-year-old son, Seth, was off for the month of August, and I fell behind in various projects. Once he started pre-K in September, I got involved helping him transition into his new class, exploring after school pursuits, etc. Never a dull moment as a multi-tasking mom!

 

That said, I decided to write a piece offering my tips on “getting it all done.” While I’m far from the expert on this subject, and feel like I never get it all done, the following is my two cents worth; hopefully it will resonnate with you!

 

1.) Focus. This is one of the hardest things to do when you’re not sure of what to tackle first. As a big idea person, entrepreneur, and writer, I am adept at overwhelming myself. But, you need to prioritize to accomplish your major goals. When creating your to-do list, look ahead, with an eye toward the life you aspire to lead in two to five years. Work at it now, even if you take small steps. Try not to get caught up entirely in minutia because there’s always an endless amount of it in our daily lives.

2.) Cut yourself some slack. I recently attended a moms' retreat at a place called Peace Village in upstate New York. They focus on teaching meditation and how to incorporate it into your life. Periodically during the day, beautiful music plays for one minute at a time, and you are supposed to stop in your tracks and take a silent pause, no matter what else you are doing. I can’t say I’ve been able to adopt this practice at home, but I see the merit; there’s a lot to be said for creating moment of rejuvenation in your day. Even if you just stop whatever you are doing, stretch, take a deep breath, look out the window, etc., it can help clear your head and be inspiring.

3.) Keep it real. The faster I try to get things done, the more pressure I put on myself. Since I have a the same window of time each day (while my son is at school), I am constantly looking at the clock while I type fiercely at the computer. As my son says, when he talks about his favorite film, Cars, I feel like I racing to win the Piston Cup, except there is no real end in sight. Instead of trying to work at lightning speed, it is more fulfilling to accept what you are able to do and not set unrealistic expectations. Racing the clock only makes your mind race, and it’s not very gratifying at the end of the day.

About the Author

co-founder, www.MotherhoodLater.com On & offline community/resource for 35+ moms of young children. Author, How to Marry a Mensch. Founder, www.LoveCoach.com -- "Strategic Socializing for Singles"

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1 comment so far...

  • Thanks for the tips! I love to read advice in list form.
    I am really working on #1. I have a hard time focusing.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by monawea on 6th February 2008

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