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What Worked and Works for Me

It might not be what works for you - and that's OK

by Florinda Pendley Vasquez  |  5315 views  |  2 comments  |        Rate this now! 

There's recently been some controversy over an article here on Work It, Mom!. I think that some of the response may not have been directly to the article itself, but to the author's previous work and her pro-working-mom stance, which is so strong that it comes across as anti-"at-home" mom. That's the danger in seeing only one "right" way to live life and be happy with it.

This site actually wasn't a place I expected to see the working/at-home mom "wars" rear their head. Given that the whole premise of Work It, Mom! is supporting and building a community for working moms, I guess I assumed that the membership here all had that in common. Some of us may have been SAHMs at one time - maybe even now. Some of us may work from home as freelancers or consultants. Some of us leave home every day to work somewhere else. Even though we may be taking different routes, we're going in the same general direction; there's just not one "right" way there.

What's worked for me might not be what works for you. But my way has been the right one for me, so I hope yours is right for you too.

About the Author

Florinda is a wife, mother, stepmother, blogger, and accountant employed by a Southern California nonprofit agency.

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2 comments so far...

  • HecticMom - I understand how conflicted you're probably feeling about your job right now...I would be too. In fact, I'm struggling with something similar.

    Eventually, I think we'll both figure out what works for us, though.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by Florinda Pendley Vasquez on 25th March 2008

  • I feel so much like you do. I have worked outside of the home for the 9 years of my daughter's life and 7 years of my son's. We used day care and expensive private schools.

    I've always loved my job, and my kids and felt busy and a little chaotic, but fulfilled. I've worked my way up and currently manage a large number of engineers and enjoy it. Recently, my division is being spun off and combined with another company and I have a new manager. It's not going well. And I'm not at all happy and don't want to stay in my current role and I'm considering leaving my company and doing some work from home - doing consultant work of performance reviews and development from home while my kids are in school.

    Leaving a full time job is terribly scary however. And I've been such a proponent for technical women in my company - now, I'm bailing like all of the other senior technical women. It just feels weird after many years of devoted service to a particular company.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by hecticmom on 25th March 2008