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Mean Moms' Summer Survival Guide

Keep yourself sane this summer

by MeanMom President  |  3180 views  |  0 comments  |        Rate this now! 

No more homework, no more books, no more teachers' dirty looks. Yes, school is out for the summer and the kids are free. Oh boy. Oh no! A kid’s dream, a mom’s nightmare!

How are you going to survive the next three months? You can send them to lots of camps, but that costs lots of money. You can send them to their grandparents’ house, but they moved away after last summer. Maybe you can find them jobs. Well, probably not since they’re only 7 and 12. Maybe you can run away. Now there’s a thought! No, they would just follow you. So what do you do?

The answer is to become a mean mom. No, that doesn’t mean to be nasty and negative and lock them in their rooms for the summer. It means to take charge and have a plan that you can stick to no matter what, even when sticking to that plan makes you unpopular.

A good mean mom focuses on two things above all else: safety and structure. These two together will make you not only a mean mom but a sane mom.

It will make you mean because the kids are looking forward to new adventures. They’re also looking forward to freedom now that school is out. It’s your job to deny too much of either. Feeling mean yet? No? Then keep reading.

Now, you don’t want to ruin their summer, or yours. So you need to give them some freedom and loosen up some of the structure. But if you want to survive with your sanity this summer, there has to be balance and a plan. Here’s how you do that.

First, you need to know what safety means at the different stages of development:

• Safety for toddlers keeps them from hurting themselves as they start to venture out on their own in their physical world.

• Safety for pre-school kids allows them to imitate what they learn and to use their imagination while keeping them in reality when it counts.

• Safety for school-age kids gives them guidelines for how far they can venture out not just physically, but also socially.

• Safety for teenagers keeps them from situations that will require them to make judgments they’re not ready for yet.

Second, decide what boundaries you need to set to keep them safe. These boundaries will give them structure. The boundaries you choose should come from your family’s style and values.

• What guidelines do you have in your family for movies, activities, etc.?

• What is out there that is unsafe for them to get into?

• What chores do they need to be responsible for?

• What kind of supervision can you realistically give? When it comes to supervision, don’t forget to use your mom network. When they say they’re going to Shane’s house, tell them you’ll call Shane’s mom to be sure she’s OK with that plan. And make the call in front of them. That is guaranteed to earn you the title “mean mom!” It will also earn you peace of mind, very important to summer survival.

About the Author

The author, Maureen LoBue, M.Ed., has combined both personal and professional experience to create Mean Mom’s Club: The Mom’s Rule Book. The purpose is to provide a common sense, ready to use reference for busy moms who need to know how to be in control of any given situation right now. The seven rules outlined in the book prepare moms to deal with situations at different ages for different children, using their own parenting style. They help you to understand why your children are doing what they do and help you to plan ahead for the best way to handle it when they do. Learn more about the book, the seven rules, and the author at www.meanmomsclub.com. Read excerpts and order the book through the web site or from www.amazon.com. Contact the author at meanmom@meanmomsclub.com

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