1.) Remember to appreciate the forest rather than concentrating on single trees. As long as, on the whole, the feedback you get from your family and co-workers is that things are going well and moving forward, it’s OK to pay a bit more attention to work or home from time to time at the short-term expense of the other.
2.) Be kind to yourself. As a working mom, you already know how important it is to support yourself. One way to do this is to push away feelings of guilt or inadequacy you might conjure up when you temporarily favor work over family, for example.
3) Help is a good thing. It’s OK and important to ask for help when you are in crunch mode at work or at home. Ideally, you have a spouse of family nearby that can help, but another great resource is other working moms. Creating arrangements to trade child care, transportation and weekend care with other working moms can not only help you all get what you need to do take care of, but it provides additional social opportunities for your kids.
The take-home message here is that it’s OK to favor work over family from time to time, and to put family squarely ahead of your professional life at other times. When times like this happen occasionally within the context of a generally balanced and boundary-driven life, there’s nothing to worry about -- we all know that from time to time we have to make hard choices to accomplish all the things we need to do. By taking care of yourself personally and professionally, you assure that your family and career both flourish in the long run.