I've been working in corporate America for a little over two years. I was an at-home mom for about four years. Being at home was by force rather that choice. When we had our first child our annual gross income was shy of $35,000. That was in 1999. I tried to go back to work only to find that the cost of childcare was prohibitive. We just couldn't afford it, never mind all the drama that goes behind having a child in daycare.
As I began to embrace being at home, I started to meet other likeminded mommies at various playgroups. I thought it would be good for me to get out of the house and good for my girls to meet other kids. Well, I was in for a treat.
I had the opportunity to meet some great women who have become lifelong friends, but many of the women I met basked in the glory. They did not have to work. They had several degrees, worked in corporate America for a year or two, found Mr. Right and plopped out several kids. Now they shuttle from soccer, to dance, to piano, to girl scouts and back again.
Is there any problem being an at-home mommy -- nope. Is there any problem with being a working mom? Nope. Is there a problem with tearing down someone else to lift yourself up? Yup.
When I returned to work, I would hear women in the office talk about women who stayed at home. The working moms would refer to work-at-home moms (because that is what a stay-at-home mom does -- work) as lazy, worthless gold diggers. Comments would waft over the water cooler that sounded like, "She had another baby just so she could stay home," "Who in their right mind would want to stay home all day?" and "My house would be immaculate, too, if I were home all day".
When are we going to realize that working for a corporation and working for family can be equally fulfilling? I've worked from home, been a stay-at-home mom, and worked for a major corporation. All jobs have been tiresome and fulfilling. So I ask you, mommy community, why do we continue to fight? Why do we think the grass is greener on the side?
Your comments are most welcome.