Here are 10 Principles of the Effective Parent:
1.) Offer your children committed love. Let your children know, without a shadow of a doubt, that you love them and you will always love them no matter what. Make this a clear and consistent message.
2.) Become the best educator of your children’s basic life skills that you can be. This is far more valuable than what you can ever buy them.
3.) Teach your children to trust themselves more than anything else. Keep your children connected to their innate inner navigational equipment. Do not underestimate the power of self-trust; this is one of the greatest gifts you will ever give your child.
4.) Give your children reasonable freedom to make choices for themselves. There is only one finer teacher than you are, and that is life experience itself.
5.) Give your children the gift of time to themselves without TV or technology. This opens the doorway to imaginative play that cultivates a powerful, lasting form of creativity and resourcefulness that serves a child for a lifetime.
6.) Make every effort to offer compassion to your child, even when discipline or consequences are required. Children are learning and therefore require explanations, education and understanding more than anything else. Make compassion your best friend.
7.) Listen to what your children have to say, even if their words are contradictory. Kids have a lot to figure out in a very complex world. Listen and be present.
8.) Give your children reasonable, basic responsibilities. Everyone in a household should contribute to the welfare of the family.
9.) Enjoy your children for who they are. As parents, we have no other responsibility other than to honor and appreciate who our children already are.
10.) Stop whatever you are doing and openly accept and receive your child’s love. Revel in it! Take the time to bask in it as often as possible. There is no greater gift you will ever receive. Let it heal you.