Comments on: Aggressive + Competent = Bitch?

By: Do you brag at work? If not, it’s your loss. - Work It, Mom! Blog - Work It, Mom!

Tue, 26 Aug 2008 13:02:51 +0000

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By: I am tired of dealing with bitchy women at work - Work It, Mom! Blog - Work It, Mom!

Sun, 13 Jul 2008 18:51:48 +0000

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By: bloggingmom67

bloggingmom67 — Tue, 01 Jul 2008 17:53:19 +0000

Totally get what you’re saying.

Went thru similar thing at work recently. I stood up for myself and what I felt was right and basically the issue was sidestepped and I was told I was unprofessional for raising it.

At work woman are expected to meek and weak. That’s just not me, sorry, and I’m sick of having to pretend and watching less competent men excell.

By: Lylah

Lylah — Tue, 17 Jun 2008 08:45:24 +0000

Trice: I hear you! Thank you for posting that!

Robyn: It took me years to be OK with it, probably because it took me that long to believe that if someone had a problem with me being confident and competent, then it was really their problem, not mine. I’m careful not to actually BE a bitch, but I can’t do much if someone else decides that they think I am.

By: Robyn

Robyn — Thu, 05 Jun 2008 15:15:10 +0000

How long did it take you to be okay with it? I’m still on that journey. It’s really, REALLY encouraging to read this.

By: Trice

Trice — Sat, 19 Apr 2008 09:20:03 +0000

Not only being a woman - but try being an educated black woman with several degrees… Intimidating - the word that others’ describe me -
For Black women - most white males and females call us “BLACK BITCHES’ = goes to show, we certainly have 2 strikes against us - Different story when we are on the phone, another story when We actually walk through the door - Faces turn red, folks shift on their feet or in their seats - Because at first glance, I do have presence.
A strong presence - and then my voice - It carries.
If one more white person talk of how ‘articulate’ I am, they will get the corporate smack down -
Are people actually that surprised when black women put words togther to make a sentence - I mean a really good sentence? And can stand before a group of 100 plus and give a resounding oration? WOW…
Ladies, check yourselves - The women’s movement came on the backs of the civil rights movement and the more opportunity that white males and some white women get to move minority educated women out of the board room because their lack of confidence, then there will always be a ‘problem’ — Get over it - we are here to stay.
Thanks for the time. Anyone out there understand me?

By: veronique

veronique — Sat, 05 Apr 2008 19:29:32 +0000

here is a thought

what is the title of a successful man?
do we call him a female bitch lol
i don’t think so
i bet he is thought of as success man working up the corporate ladder.
no problems

By: www.iboplus.com/healthndental

www.iboplus.com/healthndental — Sat, 05 Apr 2008 01:43:45 +0000

I do think that a lot of people think bitch is required to move ahead. I also think, some people do not know bitch when they see it.
Just because someone (female) is sturdy and equipped with information & knowledge doesn’t make them a bitch. However, if she is demanding of others, head strong, mean, hard to work with etc. THAT IS BITCH!

By: www.iboplus.com/healthndental

www.iboplus.com/healthndental — Sat, 05 Apr 2008 01:40:40 +0000

Working at home does not solve everything, but, it does solve a lot of things.
LIKE: I love the people I see at the office. I mean… I really love them.

By: Tammie Alphonse

Tammie Alphonse — Tue, 01 Apr 2008 05:23:25 +0000

Lylah!
Now YOU how Hillary Clinton feels, everytime she’s been called a Bitch or anything else,she’s damned if she does & damned if she doesn’t.
She should be lauded for her tenacity.
Don’t think you will find such strenth inthe “other” guy!!!!