Comments on: Goodbye, Mommy Wars. Hello, Chore Wars http://workitmom.com/bloggers/36hourday/2008/04/21/goodbye-mommy-wars-hello-chore-wars/ Wed, 19 Nov 2008 04:05:34 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: The Queen of Procrastination is ready for Halloween - The 36-Hour Day - Work It, Mom! http://workitmom.com/bloggers/36hourday/2008/04/21/goodbye-mommy-wars-hello-chore-wars/#comment-1364 The Queen of Procrastination is ready for Halloween - The 36-Hour Day - Work It, Mom! Thu, 30 Oct 2008 04:47:39 +0000 http://workitmom.com/bloggers/36hourday/2008/04/21/goodbye-mommy-wars-hello-chore-wars/#comment-1364 [...] is why housecleaning is anathema to me — the work needs to be done again nearly the instant you’ve finished doing it. [...] [...] is why housecleaning is anathema to me — the work needs to be done again nearly the instant you’ve finished doing it. [...]

]]> By: Diane http://workitmom.com/bloggers/36hourday/2008/04/21/goodbye-mommy-wars-hello-chore-wars/#comment-420 Diane Thu, 24 Apr 2008 02:03:26 +0000 http://workitmom.com/bloggers/36hourday/2008/04/21/goodbye-mommy-wars-hello-chore-wars/#comment-420 Argh! Don't even start me on this issue. I mean, really. I will not be able to put the cork back in the bottle. I mean metaphorically, of course. I don't drink and type. :) Argh! Don’t even start me on this issue. I mean, really. I will not be able to put the cork back in the bottle. I mean metaphorically, of course. I don’t drink and type. :)

]]> By: Lylah http://workitmom.com/bloggers/36hourday/2008/04/21/goodbye-mommy-wars-hello-chore-wars/#comment-417 Lylah Wed, 23 Apr 2008 04:13:33 +0000 http://workitmom.com/bloggers/36hourday/2008/04/21/goodbye-mommy-wars-hello-chore-wars/#comment-417 Kate: Very lucky! It's great you two break the mold on this one! Mandy: I hate vacuuming, but I do love the way things look (and feel) when I've vacuumed. Now, if only I could hear my iPod over the din of the vac... Amy: It sounds like it evens out in the end for you guys! Jay: Thank you! Your wife is a very smart lady, setting the ground rules clearly from the beginning! :) Honestly, though, i don't think I know any married men who see dirt the same way their wives do, regardless of who does the cleaning... Kate: Very lucky! It’s great you two break the mold on this one!

Mandy: I hate vacuuming, but I do love the way things look (and feel) when I’ve vacuumed. Now, if only I could hear my iPod over the din of the vac…

Amy: It sounds like it evens out in the end for you guys!

Jay: Thank you! Your wife is a very smart lady, setting the ground rules clearly from the beginning! :) Honestly, though, i don’t think I know any married men who see dirt the same way their wives do, regardless of who does the cleaning…

]]> By: Jay Espaillat http://workitmom.com/bloggers/36hourday/2008/04/21/goodbye-mommy-wars-hello-chore-wars/#comment-416 Jay Espaillat Wed, 23 Apr 2008 03:51:05 +0000 http://workitmom.com/bloggers/36hourday/2008/04/21/goodbye-mommy-wars-hello-chore-wars/#comment-416 Fantastic article for two reasons ... 1. Chores are an interesting element in my marriage of over 8 years. At the beginning of our marriage, my wife detailed a few non-negotiable constraints including the need for a weekly house keeper. This seemed odd as a requirement but I now know how important this is. We both work (from home) and are lucky enough to have two beautiful daughters. My wife likes things clean and orderly and ... well ... I'm a guy who doesn't see dirt like she does (as you referenced). Our house keeper is worth every penny and has become part of our family. If money becomes tight, we would gladly give up cable, take-out, and even vacations to retain our marriage-saving house keeper. 2. It was fantastic to read your mention of Po Bronson. I read his book "What Should I Do With My Life" years ago and loved it. It helped me to make a recent risky yet fulfilling career change. Keep up the insight articles!!! Fantastic article for two reasons …

1. Chores are an interesting element in my marriage of over 8 years. At the beginning of our marriage, my wife detailed a few non-negotiable constraints including the need for a weekly house keeper. This seemed odd as a requirement but I now know how important this is. We both work (from home) and are lucky enough to have two beautiful daughters. My wife likes things clean and orderly and … well … I’m a guy who doesn’t see dirt like she does (as you referenced). Our house keeper is worth every penny and has become part of our family. If money becomes tight, we would gladly give up cable, take-out, and even vacations to retain our marriage-saving house keeper.

2. It was fantastic to read your mention of Po Bronson. I read his book “What Should I Do With My Life” years ago and loved it. It helped me to make a recent risky yet fulfilling career change.

Keep up the insight articles!!!

]]> By: Amy@UWM http://workitmom.com/bloggers/36hourday/2008/04/21/goodbye-mommy-wars-hello-chore-wars/#comment-415 Amy@UWM Tue, 22 Apr 2008 01:51:24 +0000 http://workitmom.com/bloggers/36hourday/2008/04/21/goodbye-mommy-wars-hello-chore-wars/#comment-415 My husband and I learned early on that a key to a peaceful and happy marriage is outsourcing. We both hate housework and neither know anything about maintaining our yard. Thankfully we can afford the luxury. But I would say that my husband does do more around the house while I do more with the kids. My husband and I learned early on that a key to a peaceful and happy marriage is outsourcing. We both hate housework and neither know anything about maintaining our yard. Thankfully we can afford the luxury. But I would say that my husband does do more around the house while I do more with the kids.

]]> By: Mandy http://workitmom.com/bloggers/36hourday/2008/04/21/goodbye-mommy-wars-hello-chore-wars/#comment-414 Mandy Mon, 21 Apr 2008 13:30:13 +0000 http://workitmom.com/bloggers/36hourday/2008/04/21/goodbye-mommy-wars-hello-chore-wars/#comment-414 Oh my, Porn for Women. Fabulous! Actually, my hubby could be in that calendar. We are almost 50-50 on chores. We take turns mowing the lawn and actually fight about who's week it is to do it. Not because we don't want to but because we WANT to. It's often the only time during the week I can listen to my ipod. Plus I love the way it looks when it's done. This week he also tackled and beat the mountain we call laundry. Really, I can't complain if, when he thinks to clean the bathroom he misses getting around the toilet on the floor or if, when he dusts, he doesn't actaully move things, he just dusts around them. Like Kate, I'm lucky, too. But don't tell my hubby b/c I don't want it going to his head!! Oh my, Porn for Women. Fabulous! Actually, my hubby could be in that calendar. We are almost 50-50 on chores. We take turns mowing the lawn and actually fight about who’s week it is to do it. Not because we don’t want to but because we WANT to. It’s often the only time during the week I can listen to my ipod. Plus I love the way it looks when it’s done. This week he also tackled and beat the mountain we call laundry. Really, I can’t complain if, when he thinks to clean the bathroom he misses getting around the toilet on the floor or if, when he dusts, he doesn’t actaully move things, he just dusts around them.

Like Kate, I’m lucky, too. But don’t tell my hubby b/c I don’t want it going to his head!!

]]> By: Kate http://workitmom.com/bloggers/36hourday/2008/04/21/goodbye-mommy-wars-hello-chore-wars/#comment-413 Kate Mon, 21 Apr 2008 13:09:04 +0000 http://workitmom.com/bloggers/36hourday/2008/04/21/goodbye-mommy-wars-hello-chore-wars/#comment-413 haha i was reading this and thinking - it depends on the chore! We are actually probably more 'balanced' than most since the only thing hubby doenst really do is dust. but i usually am the instigater when it comes to cleaning and tend to re-clean whatever he has attempted to clean. HOWEVER - like you said - i do not do any yard work ever. hate it! i will pick out the pretty flowers and point to where they should go and thats about it. I also dont deal with trash or kitty litter. all his! so really, i think my hubby goes above and beyond when he cleans the kitchen floors, bathrooms, and vaccums... i am so lucky! haha i was reading this and thinking - it depends on the chore! We are actually probably more ‘balanced’ than most since the only thing hubby doenst really do is dust. but i usually am the instigater when it comes to cleaning and tend to re-clean whatever he has attempted to clean. HOWEVER - like you said - i do not do any yard work ever. hate it! i will pick out the pretty flowers and point to where they should go and thats about it. I also dont deal with trash or kitty litter. all his! so really, i think my hubby goes above and beyond when he cleans the kitchen floors, bathrooms, and vaccums… i am so lucky!

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