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Workplace discrimination against women, especially those with any sort of care-giving responsibilities, can be subtle.

But sometimes it’s so obvious, all you can do is shake your head like Scooby-Doo and say, “RUH??”

That’s what lawyer Alyson Kirleis found herself confronted with as a shareholder in a Pittsburgh law firm. But instead of seeing her firm responsibilities grow as as one of the firm’s owners, they started to shrink — partly because she says her more senior male counterparts thought she was spending too much time at the office and not enough time taking care of her two children.

You heard me.

Kirleis’ colleagues — her business partners — told her, as she claims in her lawsuit against the firm for discrimination, that her priorities were skewed because “women whose priorities were straight were those who relinquished their status as shareholders in the firm and who worked part-time … to be able to spend more time with their husbands and children.”

As if it’s not bad enough that women are getting passed up for promotions and high quality work when it’s perceived that their parental obligations somehow intrude on office time, now one woman lawyer believes she’s being treated unfairly because she’s spending too much time developing her law practice.

I don’t know about you, but I think this goes way past discrimination and is just a trip back into the dark ages. The thing that makes this particular case odd is that Kirleis isn’t just an employee who gets a salary — she’s one of the owners of the law firm and has worked for this firm for close to 20 years.

So, if you’d given your professional blood, sweat and tears to the same firm or company or boss for your prime professional development years, and they cut back on your opportunities because they thought you were a bad mother, what would you do?

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This entry was posted on Monday, October 22nd, 2007 at 2:03 pm and is filed under Does It Really Make Any Sense?, Mad as Hell & We're Not Going to Take it Anymore.

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2 Responses to “Damned if You Do, Damned if You Don’t”

  • PT-LawMom says:

    I think this happens a lot and is perhaps even more common than other types of parental discrimination. Employers think they are doing you a favor when they stop sending you on business trips or making you stay late after your child was born. It happened to me. Shortly after my son was born, boss gave a really neat “extracurricular” type of assignment to another secretary in our office that involved research for a speech he was doing. I would have loved doing it and, even though his heart was in the right place, it sucked that he didn’t even ask me. What I wonder is why this doesn’t happen to new fathers as well? They are sleepy and overburdened, too, and would probably be just as excited for extra time with their kids so why aren’t they similarly parent-tracked? I think employers need to learn to ask, not assume.

  • Kate says:

    i agree PT-LawMom!! the key is to stop assuming! and for us to be honest for how much work we want, when given the choice.

    honestly i was shocked when i read this. But then there are still those who ask for raises because ‘ i have a family to support’ (go figure it’s not usually a female saying this to their boss!) … maybe things really havent changed that much in the last 50 years?

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