Comments on: Damned if You Do, Damned if You Don’t http://workitmom.com/bloggers/punditmom/2007/10/22/damned-if-you-do-damned-if-you-dont/ Thu, 04 Dec 2008 20:17:01 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: Kate http://workitmom.com/bloggers/punditmom/2007/10/22/damned-if-you-do-damned-if-you-dont/#comment-153 Kate Mon, 22 Oct 2007 19:33:16 +0000 http://workitmom.com/bloggers/punditmom/2007/10/22/damned-if-you-do-damned-if-you-dont/#comment-153 i agree PT-LawMom!! the key is to stop assuming! and for us to be honest for how much work we want, when given the choice. honestly i was shocked when i read this. But then there are still those who ask for raises because ' i have a family to support' (go figure it's not usually a female saying this to their boss!) ... maybe things really havent changed that much in the last 50 years? i agree PT-LawMom!! the key is to stop assuming! and for us to be honest for how much work we want, when given the choice.

honestly i was shocked when i read this. But then there are still those who ask for raises because ‘ i have a family to support’ (go figure it’s not usually a female saying this to their boss!) … maybe things really havent changed that much in the last 50 years?

]]> By: PT-LawMom http://workitmom.com/bloggers/punditmom/2007/10/22/damned-if-you-do-damned-if-you-dont/#comment-152 PT-LawMom Mon, 22 Oct 2007 18:20:54 +0000 http://workitmom.com/bloggers/punditmom/2007/10/22/damned-if-you-do-damned-if-you-dont/#comment-152 I think this happens a lot and is perhaps even more common than other types of parental discrimination. Employers think they are doing you a favor when they stop sending you on business trips or making you stay late after your child was born. It happened to me. Shortly after my son was born, boss gave a really neat "extracurricular" type of assignment to another secretary in our office that involved research for a speech he was doing. I would have loved doing it and, even though his heart was in the right place, it sucked that he didn't even ask me. What I wonder is why this doesn't happen to new fathers as well? They are sleepy and overburdened, too, and would probably be just as excited for extra time with their kids so why aren't they similarly parent-tracked? I think employers need to learn to ask, not assume. I think this happens a lot and is perhaps even more common than other types of parental discrimination. Employers think they are doing you a favor when they stop sending you on business trips or making you stay late after your child was born. It happened to me. Shortly after my son was born, boss gave a really neat “extracurricular” type of assignment to another secretary in our office that involved research for a speech he was doing. I would have loved doing it and, even though his heart was in the right place, it sucked that he didn’t even ask me. What I wonder is why this doesn’t happen to new fathers as well? They are sleepy and overburdened, too, and would probably be just as excited for extra time with their kids so why aren’t they similarly parent-tracked? I think employers need to learn to ask, not assume.

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