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Sudden Sadness

Posted 31st March 2010 by Mich, tagged family, single parent, sad

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So I get to go on a great trip this summer. Courtesy of my mother who gave me money for it. Well, what she did was take the cash she'd saved for my wedding which never occurred. I knew this, but today I was feeling really sad about it.

Because I'm in my late 30s, so the likelihood of marriage decreases with every passing year. And most days I'm ok with that, but lately, I've not been so ok.

Perhaps it is my daughter pointing to the storybook families (mom, dad, boy, girl) and saying "look, it's a family!" as though we're not. And while I know it is her own cognitive difficulties, (as she also has a hard time recognizing that her friend's family that is mom, dad, girl, girl is also a family) it makes me feel extra sad on these blue days.





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  • Thanks realmom. I do get to see some of the not so good side with friends & family who have fighting marriages and I think, gosh, at least she isn't constantly having to tell us to stop fighting or walking around looking shell-shocked (as a few kids of the most volatile couple I know do).
    I'd say 10% of the time I like where I am, 80% of the time I'm content but there's that 10% sadness that creeps in now & again!

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by Mich on 1st April 2010

  • i didn't meet my hubby until I was 37 and did little dating in the previous 10 years so I remember many sad days. And yes there are some great things about being married but it's also aloooot of work. Compared to my friends I think I have a pretty average marriage and we all comiserate and encourage one another to get through the tough times. Your daughter may be wondering if you are a family but at least she isn't saying "Mommy I hate it when you and Daddy do fight talk!" That sort of crushed me and for about a week the hubby and I were really nice to each other! I guess I just want to remind you (and your still allowed to hav a sad day!) that the grass isn't greened and I really mean that! Sure there are those who have marriage bliss but I don't think it's the majority. So enjoy your family and help her to see a family is defined by the love not the members.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by realmom on 1st April 2010

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