What happens when life happens
When life brings painful surprises,
I vow with all beings,
To bear witness, gently and fully,
Letting tears, rest, and time light the path.
I love running my business.
I love my clients, I love the classes I teach, and I love planning and projecting. I was born to be an entrepreneur. It suits me perfectly.
But what happens to us solo business owners when life happens? You know, when you (or a loved one) get sick, or tragedy strikes, or you have to move? What happens then? Does everything you've worked so hard for, fall apart?
Over the last few weeks, I've had an opportunity to answer that question -- and, in fact, I still AM answering that question-- navigating the waters of painful circumstances (I miscarried at 8-weeks pregnant and had to undergo a D&C) while continuing to show up for current and prospective clients.
My natural inclination as a good, hard-working business owner is to push through, ignore the personal, and just get on with it.
My intuitive, business-yogini self has a different answer.
So far, I've been able to strike a fair balance between resting and processing, and continuing on with client meetings and work. It has felt really good to take the time I need to work through the sadness, but it's also felt really good to get out of it and focus my attention on my clients.
Lesson 1: Slow down and give yourself the gift of time and rest-- push through to your detriment.
I have told a few clients what is happening -- mainly because I needed to postpone meetings in order to take care of myself. Being authentic about that felt like a risk, but, in the end, I believe it will strengthen the client relationship. Because let's face it, if we show up and we're not really "there" or can't give our clients the attention they need, it's only going to harm our credibility.
Lesson 2: Stay present to the full experience you are being offered.
As I bear witness to my own experience and stay present to what is happening for me physically and emotionally, it passes more quickly. I am a master at clamping down and avoiding strong feelings. It has never worked, showing up as illness, anxiety, or exhaustion. I am learning with every hard circumstance that simply bearing witness to, and being present to what is happening is healing in and of itself.
Lesson 3: Being strongly connected to your own body-mind wisdom will serve your business (and your life) well when sh!t happens.