Resilience: Do you fight or flight?
Lately I've been under a lot of stress. There seems to be more going on right now than there has been in a while. As a result, I felt a bit of frustration. That feeling stemmed from questions I had about my coping skills and whether or not I had what it takes to manage my life. What it all boils down to is how I deal with the emotional and mental aspects of my overall being. The physical can go and go until burnout shuts down operation. I firmly believe that what we tell ourselves can either push us forward for positive things or make us retract into a negative tailspin. In a nutshell, the mental seems more powerful because this is where our thinking and critical analysis reside.
On any given day, I can start out pretty bad and then end up okay after all simply because of what I've told myself. I am also learning resilience, which is the ability to bounce back or cope after tragedy and hardship. Each and every person, particularly every woman, should possess this quality because we are expected to accomplish so much and spread ourselves out to accommodate the people in our lives. So I ask myself: Am I fighting or flighting through the tough times? Do I let them get the best of me, or do I simply write off those bad days and learn from them? Can I actually move forward and be the best person I am meant to be?
Self examination is difficult because it forces us out of the comfort zone. Examination compels us to be totally honest and get real about what we're doing and who we are. My resiliency is a work in progress. Some days I want to throw up my hands and forget about everything, but then I am struck with reality like a bolt of lightning. I cannot just hide (flight) under the covers and wait for the storm to abate. I have to get up and fight for myself and what I believe in. The tough times should be acknowledged; however, they should not rob us of the joy and life we are meant to have. Food for thought...