Friends draining me dry
Why is it that my friends feel that it is their right to put exhausting ultamatums on me? I work 45-50 hrs per wee, drive to and from work 7 hrs per week, have 3 children that are 14, 9 & 9 that are extremely active in sports, a house to clean, kids to feed, 2 dogs & 2 cats to take care of, laundry, grocery shopping, and that is just the "norm" stuff. Sometimes their are Dr. appts, school functions, work meeting, parties, etc. thrown in for a little added "flavor." I worked from home for the past 8 years, so I was a little more "available" to them to help with child care, going out for lunch or coffee. About 5 months ago, I took my above mentioned job outside my home (and city). Since then, I barely get all of the necessities done each day, and my weekend are spent cleaning, carpooling, my kids events, etc. so I truly do not have a single hour to spare at this point in my life. This one particular friend, whom I have been very close with for years, texted me a week ago saying she was tired of me never calling her or spending any time with her. She said that if I wanted to be in her life, I would be in it. What the heck?!?!?! I told her I was not going to discuss this over the phone or while I was at work. We talked casually a few times since then and things were ok, although I knew we still needed to talk. BUT, everytime I would go on Facebook she would have written stupid stuff like "I need better friends" and other stuff like that. This morning I finally had enough so I called her on my way to work and asked her to say what she needed to in order to get it off her chest because I was tired of seeing it on Facebook. She said she wouldn't talk about it on the phone. I then said that was weird because she had no trouble with texting my this crap and writing rude crap on Facebook so everyone could "woe is her." I also told her that we are 36 years old and were too old for this kind of behavior and that since all 3 of her children were in school all day, maybe she should get a job or hobby to keep her busy so she didn't expect so much from everyone else all of the time. She sits home alone all day, bored and by the time her kids get home, all her chores and errands are done and she has spare time to "get together" but I just don't!! She just sat their ignoring me so I said that I was done with this, said goodbye and hung up. Within minutes, she had deleted me from her Facebook friends. Of course, I am upset about losing my friend but I just have no time or energy for demanding, self-centered friends. To top all of this off, my grandfather has been in ICU for almost a week and she never once asked about him or my family; sher just complains that I don't make any time for her.