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I Need a Vacation From My Children

Posted 4th January 2008 by Mandy Nelson - Dandysound

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Ok, I admit it.  At the risk of sounding like a horrible mom, I need a break from these kids.  Not just a night out while they are with a sitter but several hours, maybe an entire day without someone crying MOOOOMMMMYYYY.  I know, I know, they are both sick.  Double ear infections.  I have sympathy.  But my brain is adled from lack of sleep, clingy children who don't want me to put them down, tears that seem to spring out of nowhere, I can't get 2 minutes alone to pee let alone work which has stressed me, too.  There's also a severe lack of tequila, um, I mean coffee and adult time.  I pride myself on the strength of my lower back and even my arms but they downright hurt from carrying someone all week.  A 32 pound someone and usually a 24 pound someone at the same time.  And right now I wish some of you gals lived closer so you can join me out on the town for a, um, cup of coffee. 

This here is the 24 pound someone.  Yup, those tears are permanent. 

 

I know it will get better.  But let me stand up proudly and say that, I, Mandy Nelson, am tired of spending 24/7 with my children.  I deserve a break.  I may not get it today, I may not get it tomorrow but I will get one eventually.  Perhaps this is just pushing me to perfect the act of lucid dreaming so that when I finally do get sleep I can pretend with great clarity that I'm in Jamaica drinking that there coffee.  Mmmmm.

 





10 comments so far...

  • I'm new here, but I fully understand! I have a 17 year old daughter and my hubby, BUT they can't understand why I simply want time for myself. After dealing with my attorneys (I'm a paralegal), other attorneys and the public calling in, errands, and whatever else has to be done, I'd like, at times, just to shut the door and be left alone. More over, when I even suggest that I want to take off for a few days without them and just be by myself to get myself back into 1 piece so I don't kill anyone, they look at me like I'm some sort of alien. Daughter can't understand why I need to be alone. I told her to wait and she'll understand when she has kids of her own.

    BTW, I hear a glass of chardonney and my tub calling me since lo and behold! No one's here but me and the animals. :-D

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by JKLD on 12th January 2008

  • Virtual hug coming your way. I feel this exact same way some days. I know this will pass, but I hope it passes SOON! Keep your chin up :)

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by mamajama on 7th January 2008

  • hmmmm. . . . MA isn't anywhere close to OH, is it?

    Kudos to you for writing this note . . .and I know you needed the vent, and that you weren't writing it for any of the rest of us, BUT . . . know that you writing this, validated a BUNCH of the rest of us!

    YAY for school being back in session! HALLE-FREAKIN- LULJAH!

    Hubby has a kidney stone he's trying to pass and the 4 yr old has a virus that is un-name-able that is causing huge red bumps all over - no meds allowed.

    I'm with ya sister!

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by Naomi on 6th January 2008

  • I don't think there's a mother on the planet who doesn't feel this way at reasonably frequent intervals. Not an honest one, anyway, or one without a couple of nannies!

    I'm at the end of Christmas vacation, and I'm tireder than I've been in months. The noise, the disrupted schedules, the extra bodies, the mess, the crowding, the demands, the schedules, the lack of space and privacy...

    I just want everyone to GO AWAY and leave me alone. For at least a week. I feel this way and my kids (bio and step) are much older and less demanding. (22, 19, 18, 17, 16, 14, 14, and 12). They don't even all live at home any more! All this was caused by the two weeks "holiday" time.

    I'm really looking forward to the peace and quiet of going back to work on Monday! And yes still, somehow, my kids think I'm a great mother. You know what? So do I.

    And so are you!

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by MaryP on 5th January 2008

  • HA! My kids aren't even SICK and I sometimes feel this way. You are by no means a horrible parent. I just with I could beam myself and a bottle of umm...coffee...over to ya for some bursts of laughter.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by KathyHowe on 5th January 2008

  • Mandy, hang in there! What a sweetie (tears and all).

    momof2lovilies, hilarious! I am still laughing! (I'm sure it wasn't funny at the time, but your description was so good that I felt as if I was there ... and I HAVE been, with the clueLESS hubby question and all!) ha ha

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by KC on 5th January 2008

  • If you are in NY or close I am DYING for a cup of REALLY STRONG TEQU...coffee!!!!!!!

    I was just saying this the other day. I am so SPENT from kids. My son has been getting up for the last 4 nights. Last night it was from 1:30 am til 3:30 am. Monsters were lurking!!!!! AAAAAHHHHHHHHH. I turned into a monster myself. I told him no more Scooby doo, No more batman just NOGGIN. Today he said "mommy no more dumb shows(this he heard under my breath as I walking back to my room)just NOGGIN - right mommy". NO more spooky bad guys right??? Then at 5:00 a.m. my little princess starting singing loudly....BAHHHHHHHH BAAAAHHHH. I thought I was going to just cry with her. It must of been her teeth, a little tylenol became my assistant in quieting her song.

    Then my lovely husband says to me at 7:00. "How did ya sleep?" I couldn't even answer.

    SO THEN I Take my son to school and his teacher says "oh my - are you feeling o.k.?" It must of been my throwback to the 80's side slinging ponytail slightly hanging to right side of my head that gave me away. Not to mention the teary eyes that looked like I had a great night out with the girls.

    I haven't slept since New Years Eve.

    I would love to have a night out with the girls well Mass is only about 4 hrs from NY....WHEN??? I know...it;s a stretch. I can barely make it to the City these days.

    WHEW...that felt good.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by on 5th January 2008

  • If you are in NY or close I am DYING for a cup of REALLY STRONG TEQU...coffee!!!!!!!

    I was just saying this the other day. I am so SPENT from kids. My son has been getting up for the last 4 nights. Last night it was from 1:30 am til 3:30 am. Monsters were lurking!!!!! AAAAAHHHHHHHHH. I turned into a monster myself. I told him no more Scooby doo, No more batman just NOGGIN. Today he said "mommy no more dumb shows(this he heard under my breath as I walking back to my room)just NOGGIN - right mommy". NO more spooky bad guys right??? Then at 5:00 a.m. my little princess starting singing loudly....BAHHHHHHHH BAAAAHHHH. I thought I was going to just cry with her. It must of been her teeth, a little tylenol became my assistant in quieting her song.

    Then my lovely husband says to me at 7:00. "How did ya sleep?" I couldn't even answer.

    SO THEN I Take my son to school and his teacher says "oh my - are you feeling o.k.?" It must of been my throwback to the 80's side slinging ponytail slightly hanging to right side of my head that gave me away. Not to mention the teary eyes that looked like I had a great night out with the girls.

    I haven't slept since New Years Eve.

    I would love to have a night out with the girls well Mass is only about 4 hrs from NY....WHEN??? I know...it;s a stretch. I can barely make it to the City these days.

    WHEW...that felt good.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by on 5th January 2008

  • mandy! oh i wish you lived closer and i could take a day off and get you a hotel room complete with spa treatment while the kids are cared for!!! *hugs* though i do like your take on the optimisim of perfecting lucid dreaming LOL

    on second thought (just read Lylah) i think the boys should all take care of the kids while the girlies go the the spa and drink whatever we want in our coffee!! ;) i wanna come to the Massachusetts meetup! hehehe

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by Kate on 4th January 2008

  • Mandy, I could have written this exact same post -- I sympathize so much with what you've said! We need to organize a Massachusetts WIM night out sometime soon. I think we all need a little slug of tequi... I mean coffee!

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by Lylah M. Alphonse on 4th January 2008

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