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Could I be a Stay at Home Mom?

Posted 28th May 2008 by FrenchMama, tagged work life balance, stay at home mom

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Today was hard to get back to work after the long weekend spent with the kids. ..

We had such a great weekend, spending 2 days at Sesame Place and then Monday  playing with them all afternoon in the yard. It was relaxing yet exhausting!

Then when I put them to bed and think about the day we just had, I wonder: could I be a Stay at Home Mom? Would that great feeling of having spent a great day, giving them so much of my time, would that feeling subside if I were a Stay at Home Mom?

This hunts me as comes the guilt of taking them of daycare..yet, I don't think I could do it. As much as at times I want it and wanted it when they were born, I don't think I could give them 110% every day and enjoy it...and of course that makes me feel guilty...Isn't it what a Mom is supposed to do?  Isn't our "purpose" in life! How can I say I am happy to work and leave them with total strangers who care for them. Is that right? Does anyone feel that way?  

I think being a working Mom makes me be a better Mom. that might sound silly but my Mom was a stay at home mom and never did anything with us really. I mean, I make a point to cook with my kids, to paint with them, run around in the yard, play tea parties with them and read books. My mom was a great mom, but I think she was bored...

Anyway, I was happy to go back to work today, even though exhausted! 





2 comments so far...

  • You know, you just made me feel so much better! I was feeling really bad yesterday after reconnecting with an old coworker and sharing with her what a hard time I was having staying home with the girls. Instead of support, I got a lecture. She went on and on about how fulfilled she felt as a stay at home mom, which made me feel like a total louse for not feeling that way.

    So I thank you for your candor. You totally validated my feelings and that's all I needed!

    Any way you slice it, motherhood is hard work, whether you stay at home, work from home or work outside the home. But I must say, I very much look forward to the *break* that my part-time work provides! I definitely think it makes me a better mom to have that outlet.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by Caitlin on 28th May 2008

  • I think you make a great point. Some moms are better moms if they work....it's just in our DNA... it works for some moms and not for others.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by Victoria on 28th May 2008

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