Do As I Say...
As a kid, I was not a girly-girl. (Either envied or hated them.) I still eschew all things frilly - for myself. Black T and jeans girl here owns exactly one skirt. Finding out I was having a girl, I made a no-pink-on-my-daughters decree that few took seriously cause it's crazy-impossible in the baby girl clothes department. Yet nowadays, my daughters' hair must be done properly - with bows, damn it! During every weekday morning rush I make time for combing and bow selection. Because I have an addiction. Strangers stop me and ask me about my girls' hair accessories, and I love it. Darn you, bow-making friend. This is your fault. PS - I need another of the polka-dot ponytail streamers, please.
I know. This is what crazy looks like.
But I want more.
"Modern" woman that I am claim to be when discussing it with others,I believe in the true balance of power in marriage; we should be out of kitchen, wearing shoes, and most of the time, very unpregnant! Nobody really needs am man to tell her what to do! I probably come off as domineering to the casual observer of my marriage. Whatever. Nobody orders anybody to make them a sandwich, got it? But, when making plans, social or otherwise, I always defer to my busy and shy husband, to first make sure it's ok with him. I often ask his permission to buy stuff - and I'm not talking about cars or furniture; I bring small purchases to our shopping cart with a "please?" face. If the rare occasion to go out with teacher friends after school actually arises , they roll their eyes while I call to ask Bob if that's cool, and what time should I be home? All this is less fraudulent and more balanced, in my book, but seriously, the eye rolls!
Of course I admonish women who aren't responsible for their own money and their financial planning within their relationship. It's your money, too! Working or not - be an adult, know where your money is going, for yourself! Um yeah, I don't know how to do the bills. I'm not really sure what my actual salary is, either. Wait, there's a municipal charge for WATER? Really?? We will work on my financial education this summer. Just like we were supposed to last summer.
As I was just self-righteously saying in the staff room the other day: obviously any smart and caring parent would be responsible for her family's future, be realistic, and plan for the unthinkable to protect her children. Ready for some pathetic? We STILL don't have a will. Swear to God we'll do it by August.Yes I said that last year too.