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Kids know just what to say

I know we all know this is true, kids say the most poignant things, but I keep getting reminded. It's been a few rough weeks and I am tired. The other day I was hanging out with my daughter and zoned out for a bit. She came over and said "Mommy, what's wrong?"

I told her I was very tired and she said "Mommy, maybe you should take a nap? When I am tired I take a nap and then I feel all better."

So true:)

I didn't take a nap, but I did go for a walk. Yes, some work didn't get done, but I felt better. I should take my daughter's advice more often:)

14 comments so far...

Nataly,

You are right about this. The other day, I went to pick up my son at the after school program. He started to whine to me that he wanted to go somewhere instead of going home. I said to him "why don't you ask me how was my day instead". He stopped for a minute and asked me "How was your day?" I said to him that I had a very busy day at work and I am tired now. then he said "oh". So the next day when I picked him up he asked me " How was your day mom?"

Flag as inappropriate Posted by Soune on 17th October 2008
Dear Nataly,

I'm new to your site and I have to tell you, I'm just loving it! It's good to know that I'm not the only mom out there that doesn't just have a rough day, but a few rough weeks. Some time ago I asked a friend (and mommy of 4) when life will ever be normal again. She said:"The only thing "normal" in a mom's life is the setting on the dryer." I'm sticking with that thought!

The other day I found a tremendous stress buster: Laughing with your kids. I have a 2-year-old and a 2-month-old and needless to say, some days are tough. Recently we had one of those tough days. I was sitting in the living room when my 2-year-old came in with two pretend play icecream cones. He wanted me to "eat" one. I wasn't really up to playing so in the spur of the moment I took the cone and used it as a microphone and sang into it. My 2-year-old thought it was histerically funny, and the more he laughed, the more I laughed...until my face started to hurt. After this extended laughing session, my day was just much better and way more relaxed. I was still tired, but at least I laughed some of that built up stress away.

Thank you again for a great site. It's been fun!

Flag as inappropriate Posted by MommyOFtwo on 1st August 2008
My Little Man always knows what to say, and always knows when I need a hug. I thought it'd change once he was a bigger boy (he's 8 now), but he's still going strong. Sometimes our kids have that purity and clarity of mind to see what we aren't allowing ourselves to see. Pretty amazing people, aren't they?
Glad you got a chance to go for a walk. :) Hang in there, Girl.

Flag as inappropriate Posted by mommapolitico.blogspot.com on 26th July 2008
Hey Nataly,

Yes, they do have a way of making things right, don't they? Recently my 5-year-old son graduated from pre-K. The teachers posted a little questionnaire which they asked all of the children. The last question: Who will you marry? My son replied: "I'm going to stay with my mommy. I asked her and she said 'yes'." The director of the school was in tears and so was I.

The answer came at a very critical moment in my life; and I am so very blessed to have such a beautiful little child who thinks so much of me.

Flag as inappropriate Posted by libby on 23rd July 2008
Don't you think women also have a harder time taking a break, whether it be a nap or a walk? Like, most dads don't need encouragement to take a nap on the couch! So, what is it with moms??

Flag as inappropriate Posted by Diane on 23rd July 2008
Such is the logic of a child. Anyway, I fall into the catrgory of women who have gained weight after kids because you eat what is left on their plates. I used to be a "gym rat", working out 4-5 a week so needless to say, I am not happy with my body right now. One night when we were snuggling in the bed, we had a conversation that went like this:

Kid #1: "Mommy, are you going to have another baby?"
Me: "No, I just need to work out and lose some weight."
Kid #1: "You can do it, Mommy!"
Kid #2: "We can help."
Kid #1: "We will work out with you."
Kid #2: "Mommy, you are beautiful."

Kids are fantastic, and adults could learn alot from them.

Flag as inappropriate Posted by Tee_N_DC on 23rd July 2008
My soon-to-be 6 yr. old son has a very sensitive, "old soul" side to him. Recently, as I leaned forward to kiss him goodnight, my hair fell forward into my face. He brushed it out of my eyes and tucked it behind one of my ears. "Mom, you look really cute with your hair behind your ear", he said. "Here, now let me do the other side". He gently touched my cheek and said "you look so pretty...you should stop and look in the bathroom mirror when you leave my room". All this sweetness, even when I was feeling a bit disheveled at the end of a long day. (Preparing for his birthday party the next morning, with family house guests camping out downstairs!) I did go out of my way to take a peek in the mirror. I tried to see myself through his eyes...hey, maybe I didn't look half-bad afterall!

I am so blessed to have this child in my life.

Flag as inappropriate Posted by Tucci Mama on 23rd July 2008
Aren't kids amazing, Natalie?
I know your daughter is just about the same age as mine (around 4).
Not long ago, Rebeca asked me: Mommy - are you happy? I was shocked!
First of all: does she understand what it means to be happy?
Second of all: was my stormy face and somewhat erratic behavior I involuntarily displayed for a couple of days, telling her that something is wrong with me and I'm not happy, as I usually am?
Third: kids are SOOOO smart -- they feel things, they do not even think of questioning their instincts, they understand and they are not afraid to point out a problem and demand a straight forward answer to it, from us -- the adults who forgot how to be ... kids.

Let's cherish these moments, learn from them and hope to hold on to them for as long as we can, for when our kids grow up, they might just become like us: worried with things that are not the most important, afraid to ask a straight forward question and demand an answer since people have a bad habit (and think they have the right) to get "offend" when somebody points our the truth, etc. etc. etc. Ough!

Flag as inappropriate Posted by Lorena on 23rd July 2008
My favorite words from my eight-year-old are "I love you." Reminds me every time that I need to say these same ones more often myself.

Flag as inappropriate Posted by Walking In My Sleep (Laurie Storey-Manseau) on 23rd July 2008
I'm trying to get my kids to focus on financial responsibility more. The other day my 14 year old said to me, "Mom, how much is summer camp for the 3 of us costing?" I gave him the astounding figure. He then said, "wow, how long does it take you to make all that money?". I know it's not the most profound thing but it opened up a really good conversation and I finally was able to say to myself, he's starting to get it!!

Flag as inappropriate Posted by CreditMom on 23rd July 2008
Oh, yes! My 6 yr old made being a Christian witness look easy one day and got my sister thinking about coming back to the Lord by simply saying "Aunt Amy, do you know John 3:16? Well, you should because God loves you, you know!"

Unafraid, unashamed and uncomplicated - those kids rule!

Flag as inappropriate Posted by MortonPixie on 23rd July 2008
Hee, Hee! How about these wise words I heard the other day . . .

Mom: (in the kitchen chopping vegetables) Sigh . . .
Aidan:: (6 years old) What's wrong Mom?
Mom: Oh, my wrist is just getting tired.
Aidan: Well, then stop chopping.

Sometimes the answer is just so simple, huh?

Flag as inappropriate Posted by VickyandJen.com on 23rd July 2008