Well, here is my interpretation of "diet," and I think you will agree that it's probably closer to what you are doing.
I don't actually count calories, I suppose. But I do this:
1) I've stopped eating fast food. Um, except for this past Tuesday night.... at 1 a.m.... Taco Bell is a very big weakness for me. I adore it. And when I eat it, I want to drink a Dr. Pepper. Sigh. So, it was my dirty little secret several times a week. I have stopped that, and that cuts out the Dr. Pepper too.
2) We eat at our local bar on Friday nights. This used to mean multiple beers, onion rings, fries, etc. Now, I get a burger, one beer, and then soda water. No onion rings, no fries. I guess I could switch to a lite beer too... But let's not go nuts, shall we?
3) I try to eat vegetables with every meal. I didn't this morning for breakfast, but I had two helpings of fruit salad that I made myself, and then I ate some almonds. Are you detecting that I don't really know how many calories are in all of this? But I know it's less than when I had lots of cream cheese on bagels and when I had bacon or a big, greasy breakfast sandwich that my husband would make for me...
4) I switched from a sweetened coffee creamer to a soy creamer with half the calories and only 3g of sugar.
5) I cut out egg yokes (unless I make a hard-boiled egg for a salad).
6) I cut out mayo with tuna. And now I add capers and pickles.
7) When I go out to eat, I try to get salads and soups and I try not to eat the entire portion. But I sometimes do eat it.
8) Switched my crackers over to Triscuits: No added sugar.
9) Instead of getting a huge Diet pop every day, I just try to stick with water.
10) I get a latte at the coffee shop made with skim milk, instead of my beloved mocha.
All of these are based on lifestyle changes that I can maintain. So, I think it was misleading when I said I am on a calorie-restricted diet. I am restricting the calories that I *know* I was having regularly before by making other choices.
But it took a long, honest look at what I was actually eating to realize that I had LOTS of areas in which to make better choices.