My husband is wonderful -- supportive, a hands-on parent, a great cook, does all the maintenance and fixing of stuff, the works. His Mama did an excellent job. That said, it took us switching schedules for a while in order for him to really undestand what I do in addition to my paid work. It doesn't sound like a big deal, right? But in addition to my WAHM freelance work, I also work outside the home -- for the same company that he does, and I have for the past 13 years! So we have the same commute, many of the same coworkers, a similar workload -- he knows exactly what I'm up against at work (we're both journalists, but in different departments), but honestly didn't really undestand what I was up against at home. And I'm not sure he really gets how much freelance work I have on my plate, either.
But he understands that it's a juggle. Some days, I can't get it all done, and if he hasn't noticed and pitched in (or if I haven't thought to ask him to, which, honestly, is much more likely), it just doesn't get done. He takes care of all of the house and car and outside maintenance, and it's the same thing -- a juggle. Some days, he has to choose between changing the oil and mowing the lawn and patching a clapboard -- there's not enough daylight to get it all done at one time.