Bullying always makes me feel so helpless. You can meet with the teachers, you can try to meet with the other parents, you can talk strategies with your child. They need to know the powers that be are behind them; they need to know they have recourse. And sometimes you can do all that and the situation doesn't change.
None of my kids have suffered a lot at the hands of bullies, but they've all had some negative exchanges along the way. Fortunately, they all seem to have the self-confidence to deal with it. I got complaints, but no pleas for intercession, nor did I feel it was warranted in any but oe instance, where the bully in question happened to be a teacher.
I like Kathy's take-no-prisoners approach.
When my youngest was in grade 6, she told me that in grade 4 a few kids followed her home for a couple of blocks one day, taunting her. When I asked what she'd done about it, she said, "I told them, 'Oh F**k off!'."
My eyes popped a wee bit at the thought of my then 8-year-old bellowing that kind of language on our quiet middle-class street, and while I can't imagine myself suggesting this response to a child, I admit I laughed when she told me. Apparently that was the last time they tried it. Conciliation rarely works with bullies; they respect a show of strength. And we all know they're mostly cowards.
I think Emma shares Kathy's attitude to this issue...