Why am I a nice person?? This is my ex-husband's aunt, I divorced him in 1978 and owe her nothing really. Her and I were never close, and the rest of my ex's family doesn't bother with me or my children. She has alienated her whole family - no-one will have anything to do with her. But she is 85, just moved into my city, into a retirement home, diabetic and blind and had no-one to help her.
So, despite still recovering from a broken leg myself, my husband and I have been driving her to appointments, to the bank, shopping. We had her over for a Christmas party just days after she first called me to say she was now living here in town. We even had a surprise party for her birthday with all my kids, their spouses and children recently. I ask for nothing in return, but she takes us out to dinner after we run errands, and that's nice.
But she rags on everyone, everyone is out to get her, everyone is taking advantage of her, everyone is evil and mean - and I am the only one she says understands. She even says things about my husband, about my children, about their spouses that are just not true, and I cannot argue with her.
If I try to tell her that she is wrong, that what she is saying is not true, she tells me I am being blind, and letting people take advantage of me. I know she is projecting her own problems on me, and I really try hard not to let it get to me. But it makes me crazy to listen to her say these things about the people I love. Sometimes I want to run around the house screaming!!
She wishes I was completely healed, so I could go on shopping trips with her, spend more time with her, come and hang out at the retirement home with her, be her best buddy!
Honestly, I am just trying to help because I can imagine how hard it must be to be old, alone and need help. But I have a life, a job, a family - and she makes me glad I broke my leg and cannot be at her beck & call!!