My husband and I , after 14 years have had a sensual re-birth. He went on a trip for almost 6 weeks and after about 2 weeks, we found ourselves talking a little dirty to each other on the phone, after 43 our emails became playful and then steamy and his first night home was incredible. There is nothing more senuous than making love to someone you love with all your heart.
As with most marraiges we've had good times and bad, but we are committed and love each other. Our intimate life had all but disappeared between years 7-11, then it slowly returned and in the past 2 years I'd say it was quite healthy, but something about being apart has opened us up - to discussion and a new form of intimacy.
I can't say that we will be having date night per se, but we are making some adult time to enjoy and pleasure each other, offering the 8 year old full control of the remote for a while , early Sunday morning while mom & dad have some quiet time. (my son is very respectful of a closed bedroom door - never taught it per se, but the walk-in fear isn't very prevelant in our house) ,
We've found that although we enjoy physical intimacy, what we craved while apart was simply touching one another and talking to each other. TYhrough our playful chatter we both made some provocative suggestions - and it opened up the discussion to what we each wanted and enjoyed. We' ve also agreed to be open to the mood - be it for some suggestive flirtation or full intimacy - let yourself go to enjoy each other.
We're doing some reading on tantric sex and be it our age, our time apart or simply the point in our relationship - we have never been more physcially, emotionally or intellectually connected than we are now - an it all started with some playful phone chatter and provocative emails!
So take a chance, let the dishes sit for an hour, steal that playful grope where you can and welcome being awoken at 3am by the touch of the man you love .. . . you might be surprised how much energy you have, if you just let yourself enjoy it!