I do feel that I am perceived differently after becoming a mom, but it is not in a way that has become an issue.
Please share with us the top three things/strategies that help you successfully get through your days at work and at home.
I think the single most important thing is having someone helping you who you have complete confidence in. We consider our nanny a third parent, and there is never a worry or concern about her ability to care for our son.
Another important thing is managing the time as efficiently as possible. I am a multi-tasker by nature, so I use every opportunity to "cross an item off my list.”
And I think the third is acceptance. Accept the fact that life is different now. People may think of you differently, but it is okay and worth it because you wouldn’t change what you have now just to have people treat you as they did prior to motherhood.
What does work/life balance mean to you?
Well, I believe "happy mom, happy everyone," so I really try to take care of my needs so that I can feel good about myself. If I start to feel down, my mood changes and becomes a drag on everything in the household. So I try to do something about it.
If I feel that I need to find time for exercise, I’ll try to get up an hour earlier than I normally do each weekday so that I can fit that workout in. If I need to see my friends, I may plan a night out or even a weekend away.
It is important for me not to lose myself but at the same time I try to include my son in most of my activities. For example, if I need a night out with a friend and want to see my son as well, I make a date with a friend who is also a mother so we can bring our kids out with us to a restaurant or to an event. I still keep a very active social schedule, but most of the activities include my son.
Professional moms know that the way to keep our sanity is by not being perfect at everything. What are some things you are not perfect about?
I am not perfect about a lot of things, but I am becoming better at setting realistic expectations of time. I am really trying not to jam too many plans in one day so that I can enjoy and savor every moment and not feel rushed.