How do you de-stress and relax?
I relax by watching a TV show. I also enjoy reading a magazine or a good book. So when everyone is asleep I use the quiet time to fit that in my day.
One thing that you have or do that makes your busy life easier:
I think having a strong support system in place is very important. My husband respects me and all that I do. We relate on many levels, not only parenthood but in business as well. I think we are true partners in many areas so there is no resentment of each other or lack of understanding where the other person is coming from.
One thing that would make your life easier would be:
Of course more hours in a day!!!
I also wish I could find a way to freeze myself so that I never have to worry about finding time in my day to worry about my appearance. The biggest challenge is trying to find time to fit in stuff that is not work related, not related to my friends and family, but maintenance related. A manicure appointment means an hour away from my son and the struggle is finding that time.
If you could afford to stay at home, would you still choose to work? Why?
Yes I would, at least for now. I feel that I only know myself one way. I have always worked and had my own thing, my own identity, and I am very proud of all that I have accomplished. I absolutely enjoy making my own money because it has always been important for me to be able to support myself, but that is not why I work. I work because this is the person I enjoy being and it works for me and my family.
Any advice for fellow professional moms?
Don’t do something for someone else, do what makes you happy first. Other people’s comments and opinions should not influence a decision you make for yourself, especially when it relates to choices you make for your family. No one really knows what will make you happy; you have to be in charge of that.
Do you feel a lot of guilt as a professional mom? What are your strategies for dealing with it?
I actually do not feel a lot of guilt. It doesn’t feel good when my son asks me to stay in bed with him or stay and play with him as I am walking out the door. But I also know that he should want to spend more time with his mom and that’s okay. He enjoys his friends, school, and a lot of activities that do not include me. That "please stay” moment only lasts a moment and then he will move onto something else.