Mom Interviews

Beth Avant

Freelance Director at a PR Agency

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Most favorite part is that I love being more then just a mom; I like using my brain and being smart and having more to my life then my house and family.

Had having children affecting your career path?

Yes, definitely. I haven’t pursued certain promotions because of different priorities. For example, I can’t have a long commute and pick up my son from school in time. So I have to prioritize and decide what’s important and what type of job parameters are not acceptable to me.

Did you find that your colleagues/clients treated you differently after you had kids?

My clients and colleagues tried to be understanding, but it’s hard if they don’t have kids. They can’t relate as much. When I first came back from maternity leave I worked with close friend of mine. Even though she supported me 100% she didn’t have kids and couldn’t grasp what I was going through. She tried, she just couldn’t. After a while our relationship was worn down.

In my last position our office was mostly female and our clients were men and most of them were dads with stay-at-home wives. After I had my child they looked at me in a funny way because I was working mom! That was weird. They couldn’t understand. I felt like they looked down at me because I was working.

I also found that a lot of women who worked with me, even if they were mothers, seemed to prioritize their jobs over their children - they would often work late and travel a lot. I had a hard time relating to them. It’s like there are two extremes out there. These women just couldn’t understand my challenge of balancing because their career was their life.

Who/what has been most helpful to you as you’ve navigated through your career as a mom? Where do you go for support/advice to help you?

I don’t have a good mentor/role model. It’s hard to find a mom and a career woman that I want to be. I belong to a private message board, an iVillage spin-off, for 3 years. This group is my biggest support group. It’s a mix of stay-at-home moms and working moms. It’s great to bounce ideas and problems off of them.

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4 comments so far...

  • Love your page Beth! Working full time and being a mom, keeping the house clean and paying the bills can all be so overwhelming. Did I mention work-out too? Sometimes I just want to collapse, and then I get so short tempered because all I want to do is play with my 6 yr old daughter. BUt overall I am so lucky to have a job, and to do what I love to do which is selling Real Estate. I realize as soon as I make an issue about somethingn then it has become an issue. I am learning to rise above and find solutions. Juggle away, but try to capture the moment and stop to smell the flowers. Love your blog sight! Charge!!

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by mamasita on 19th August 2010

  • it's so good to hear how others do it day to day! thanks!

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by Tiff on 1st May 2007

  • Great answers Beth!! You are juggling so well, I'm proud of you.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by akalterego on 30th April 2007

  • I really like your advice about talking to your boss if feeling overwhelmed. I work in a completely male dominated industry and don't think my boss would ever be sympathetic to how I feel as a mom, but what you wrote really made me think that perhaps even he could surprise me...

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by Nataly on 30th April 2007