Joined 16th February 2009
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to stop smoking
to re-start training full time IN Karate
to achieve Black Belt before 40
employment that works with my \\\'life\\\'
for my son to live successfully and independantly
for my daughter to achieve all she wants in life
to own a harley
To get my CDL and drive a big rig
To go skydiving
to go parasailing
to become a published author
To be remarried...........happily
writing a book
Actively Not smoking
Answered on 27th February 2009:
I am actually a little bothered by this question. I wish 'cutting back' was an issue. It no longer is. There is no where else, and NOTHING else to cut.
house cleaners? babysitters? fancy coffee? All of the above. Never had a housekeeper. Never really employed babysitters either. Fancy coffee was one of my downfalls. No more.
We are down basics. And by basics I mean paying rent (which can't always be done either).
Groceries are supplemented by a monthly trip to the food shelf, there is no other way to feed my children. I keep my internet access to assist in finding a job, but have eliminated the TV. Any clubs, activities, or classes that have a fee attached are gone. If its free, fine and dandy.
I have one asset remaining to sell. But I can't sell it. I NEED a vehicle. There isn't really a choice in that matter where I live.
So what do I refuse to cut back on? I don't have any 'indulgences' anymore whatsoever. What I have goes to basic living or my children.
There is nothing else.
Answered on 16th February 2009:
Too often, when you have a baby.......you forget that you are also part of a relationship. The baby takes so much time and energy you stop seeing yourselves as lovers, friends, and partners and see yourselves as...................mom and dad. Remember that the baby joined YOUR relationship, not the other way around.
You need to actively and consciously keep the romance alive in little ways. Leave a love note, write a love letter, discretely 'grope.' Plan a date night....all night. Go to a hotel, have the baby stay at Grandma's (or some other acceptable option). Be the romantic you want to be......
But most importantly you must talk to each other. Honestly, openly, and freely. And when the time comes follow two simple rules to loosen up and get the mood in motion...........inebriate and lubricate.
Sounds superficial, but it works wonders as a 'jump start.'
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