Irenee, thanks for reading my "Stepmothering" post! For what it's worth, I think you did the right thing, both for yourself and your kids! Marriage is too central to our day-to-day happiness to not feel absolutely certain before you make the leap -- doubts can be an invaluable wake-up call that you should listen to, and you did. Hurrah for that! Best of luck in recovering from your surgery!