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I am having such a hard time thinking about going back to work at the end of may. Will my daughter 'bond' with another woman and think that that is her momma?! Just breaks my heart.....”

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  • I'm sorry you are having a hard time preparing for the transition! It's completely normal to feel this way, but there are some things you can do to help make it easier for you. First, know that your daughter will always know that you are her mom...there's no one else who can take your place! It would be great if your daughter bonds with your provider, she will feel more comfortable and will be happier in her care. Also, look at it this way...if you know your daughter is happy and feels safe, you will have an easier time leaving her there! Your provider will likely be sensitive to your feelings (she's been through this before, even though you haven't!) and will take steps to help connect you to what your daughter is doing during the day. Good luck!

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by KAtwinmom on 15th April 2011

  • Hi, I'm a mom of two little girls and I also struggled going back to work after my first daughter was born. As moms, I know how important it is for us to be there for our kids. First I want to reassure you that your daughter will not think her caregiver is her mom. They may bond and have a true connection but they can't take your place.
    However for me, after I went back to work I struggled with not seeing my daughter enough so I found an alternative and now have been working from home for the past 5 years with my two girls by my side. They are now ages 4 and almost 6. This has been really great for my family because I can be there for everything in my children's lives but still bring in the income we need.

    Are you open to looking into an opportunity to work from home? If you are, I would love to share what has helped my family. There is no selling, stocking, or delivering products like many home businesses. If you are interested in learning more visit my site at and request more details. I would love to talk with you and see if this is a good match for you as it has been for us.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by WAHMwellness on 14th April 2011

  • Hey Shelbysmom,

    I really don't think so. She'll be seeing your loving face first thing each morning and last thing each night. I'm not a psychologist but did raise two kids who at times had a caregiver and I'm glad to say, as adult children now, we still bond! Your daughter learning to bond with another isn't a bad thing. it's a healthy thing. I believe It's more important that she does bond with others also and feels loved. One of the hardest things for a parent is watching their child scream hysterically as you leave. Be grateful if she feels secure in day care and leave knowing that she loves you. Good luck!

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by Rick Fingerman CFP, CDFA on 14th April 2011