I read the book "Five Love Languages" while in college and realized I need affirmation from my future husband above all. Therefore, when I finally had a husband, I told him that compliments of any kind are necessary for my "love health" and our relationship. My husband is a man of few words, but powerful ones. We have now worked up to at least one compliment a day to each other focusing on things that are important to each of us.
He gives me compliments all the time, but I give him more. He used to be uncomfortable with compliments, and then I taught him to just smile and say, "I am so glad you think so," or "that is so nice of you to say." I am a strong believer in postitive reinforcement, so the people around me are often told that they are beautiful, smart and funny.
Every single day! It took some getting used to actually allowing & believing someone could love me this much (as when it came to men I often thought "yeah, uhuh...right...what do you want?"). But he means it, and now I love to hear it :)
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